Hey girlies!!
Uber exciting news today! I've been up since 5:30am, I don't even know why, I was catching up on Joan SB's blog while texting this potential POT, but its true, the early bird gets the worm! haha lmaoo well not necessarily, but today, yes! We'll call him Ren Ren, I recieved a message from him on SA, actually, he was the first one to message me on SA when I signed up lol, but he's not that attractive in my eyes, he's 47 and a construction worker, I don't know what he does at the construction site but he's bringing in more than a mill annually, which is fine by me! and his net worth is 10 mill to 50 mill, I think i've hit the jackPOT.
He seems very well mannered, very gentleman like, and I only messaged him back because he messaged me twice on SA, the second message saying that he is still interested in being my SD, with a 3 weeks span in between the messages (not stalkerish or desperate at all), so I was like "oh what the heck, might as well." He compliments me a lot and i'm not complaining, I made sure to bring up the topic that I am a new SB and have no experience, saying that to test and see what he was going to say, as most guys fail this test HORRIBLY, and he passed the test. He said "I'll be gentle and take care of you, well, at first I'll provide you an allowance per visit until we get more established." We are supposed to go to dinner on Thursday of next week, I'm excited! He's been the only guy on SA that has asked me to go to a proper dinner just to get to know each other WITHOUT expectations.
I have a good gut feeling about this. Which I haven't felt since I signed up for SA. He offered to pay for my cab ride to the restaurant as the restaurant is in the next city from my city that I live in, and I don't think he is actually one of the guys that hammer nails and such into walls/wood, as he seems to text me back on a very timely basis. He's Italien which is great for me as I do speak a little bit of Italien lol. I'll try and amuse him with my language skills, since that is his first language.
Now... the question is, how will I bring up the allowance amount talk... I hate that part, I think I'm not doing it right as I can swear after I have that talk with the potentials, I never hear from them again =( lmao, I expect no less than 4-5grand a month.
So what do you girls think?! leave me comments! =) oh, and wish me luck, I shall update you girls as soon as I have news on the situation.
Jayde Nicole xox
OMG!! we were just having this conversation about paying for the cab ride :D I think this guy is wonderful. Plus the fact that you'll try speaking Italian is super cute to an older man so make sure you try it out, lol.
ReplyDeleteAbout the allowance part-
On this first date you should be receiving at least $500, unless if your cab ride equals more than that. He should pay your round trip by cab plus extra sugar money on top of that. Now the $500 is just a rounded number, but if he gave you like $100 more than your cab fare then that's a joke!
About discussing allowance... On this date you should get to know each other- sports, art, travelling, ... the fun stuff. And then on the second date then you start discussing his business, you're schooling, rent, bills, and things like that. Then on the third meeting you make the arrangement. That's usually how it goes. You guys might play it differently. Just discuss how much you'll like to receive on each meeting before discussing the monthly allowance.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uepaE-r1c2Q&feature=related
Check this out. The lady says it great.
:)
My advice--
ReplyDeleteDon't bring up allowance unless he wants to discuss it, but it is okay to hint at it. I wouldn't set expectations for an amount received on the first date. You will get a great feel for how generous he is by what he gives you for a first meet. However, I would ALWAYS have the allowance talk on the second date, just because you don't want to waste your time! Also, consider if you want the total amount he spends on you to be $4-$5k or if you want that to be just your allowance, plus shopping, dinners ect. I usually feel the guy out first. Unless this is all about money for you, you may decide you are willing to take less if you really dig him, or that you want $7k for this guy because he is scum! Can't wait to hear how your date turns out! Good luck. <3
I agree with Sugar Smith. Make the effort to have the first date be about learning to see if he's a good fit for you. If he brings up allowance, fine, but if you bring it up right away, that may put him off as you being all about the money and not about who he is.
ReplyDeleteI'm personally not a fan of saying "He needs to give x by y time", as each arrangement is unique depending on the people and circumstances. Go with what you feel is right and acceptable to you.